What's In A Title?

Sexploration brought up the subject of titles and how some people seem to just use them to refer to anyone and everyone they meet in the lifestyle.

Personally, I really don't like the easy way people throw around titles. It's up to them what they want to do of course, but for myself, I've chosen not to call anyone Mistress or Master on a whim. In fact, I've never used the title. Only once, for a very short time, did I even feel a strong pull to call a partner that, and although things did not pan out between us, I do know there was a huge significance in that. It never passed my lips, but at the time it seemed inevitable.

I don't even use sir unless they are someone I've played with, or someone I feel friendship and respect for as a dominant.

Actually, there is often for me a fairly significant moment in which I begin to refer to someone as sir. I'm almost always acutely aware the moment it sneaks past my lips. It signals to me the moment in which I have mentally - and usually verbally as well - agreed to submit to someone.

The other circumstances in which I may begin to use it is when I have known a dominant friend long enough to feel secure in my respect for them. Calling someone sir means I've acknowledged them as a dominant personality. And there will always be a measure of deference in my manner towards them, even if we never decide to play with one another.

Using sir can give me such delicious feelings of surrender, joy, safety, sexual tension, anticipation, nervousness...any number of wonderful intriguing emotions. It reminds me that I can be myself with that individual, expressing my submissive nature comfortably.

Why would I want to throw it around and have it lose that sweet power?

I don't.

After almost 8 years of this lifestyle titles have remained something I use with caution and respect, regardless of how others want to use them or not use them. It works for me, and that's what counts.