Quit Whining!

It's just not like it used to be... In the good old days when things meant something... Back in the days of The Old Guard... In the best European Houses of BDSM...

I read the Fetlife, Collarme, and Alt forums for a reason. They help me stay in the local loop, give me opportunities to learn something new almost everyday, and they inspire me to write. But some days I just want to scream Quit your damn whining!

If you don't like the way others play in the sandbox then get your own sandbox, or turn your back on them and play with someone else. It's a skill you were supposed to master in kindergarten.

BDSM is about exploring your own unique, individual style of loving, of sexual expression, of thrill-seeking, of interacting with other adults. It's not an exclusive club where you have to conform, or play by the management rules. Unless you're at a public event and then you agree to the rules by being there and need to hold to that for the sake of preventing chaos and anarchy, or worse yet the indignity of getting bounced on your ass.

Whining is non-productive and un-sexy. Whining does not make for good dominant form, nor does it make an intricate slave-girl serve more seductive. Cut it out. Now.

If you want to see good things happen in your online or local BDSM community then go out and do good things. It just might make things a little nicer out there in Alternative Lifestyle Land. Meanwhile, cut the complaining about other people's relationships, scenes, or rope/corset/paddle choices. Live and let live.

Thank you for listening to this little bit of rabid ranting, and please, continue on with what you were doing.

Nothing more to see here, folks.